When Todd and I get in a fight, I often ask him if he wants me to be more like a Stepford wife. For those of you who don’t know what I’m talking about, a Stepford wife is a woman who is overly submissive to her husband, mindless, docile and exceptionally beautiful. Basically a perfect in every way sort of wife. {There is actually a novel called The Stepford Wives (1972) and a movie (1975, 2004).}
Although I know that’s not what he wants me to be, my mind just takes me there when I receive a complaint from him that I said something snotty or have an attitude. Now don’t get me wrong. I do tend to get easily irritated and impatient. I think this is more-so since becoming a stay-at-home mom.
I’ve also read that the woman sets the mood of the home. So if I choose to be irritated and crabby all the time, everyone else will be too. Of course that isn’t exactly the atmosphere I’d like to create in our home, nor do I think I need to be Super Mom and Super Wife either.
But if I could be a better wife and not the perfect wife {because that’s impossible} these are the many things I would do:
- Have dinner on the table 5 nights a week
- Always know what to cook too!
- Almost always have a smile on my face
- Almost never show how impatient or irritated I am
- Clean my own house instead of having a cleaning crew
- Stop complaining
- Choose my words with my husband carefully
- Have sex with him only when I want it when he wants it
- Make breakfast on Saturdays
- Shop with coupons
If you could be a better wife, what would you do?
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I am working on many of these. I would also have dinner on the table 5-6 nights a week. Actually use the meal plans I make. Grow my own garden so I could can the produce. Be more interactive with my children (okay so that falls more to the mom side but that is part of being a good wife in my eyes).Stop whining as much (and realize when I am because sometimes I don't). Actually keep up with the ironing. Keep up my appearance and stop wearing work out clothes so much.
In fact I am starting a challenge to become a better housewife here soon….come check it out sometime.
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I would learn how to balance everything so that I'm never pulled too far in one direction and I'm able to keep it all together. Oh wait. That's impossible. Thank goodness for wine and chocolate:).
I used to try to be a better wife back in my younger days, now I realize that I am who I am, and so are my family members! I just try to remember to let the little things go, compromise, love my family for their strength and weaknesses, and forgive myself for not being super wife/mom…
Well, I tried to do everything that a "good" wife would do, but then I would be stressed out in trying to get it all done, and be a little cranky to say the least because I wanted to make sure that the house was perfect, dinner was ready, the yard was weeded, and on and on. After asking my husband what he thought about all that I had done, his response was that he didn't really care about all of that stuff, he wanted me to be kind! Talk about putting it into perspective! Apparently overextending myself to try to give him everything that I thought he wanted was not making me the kind and sweet wife that he married! So, now I do the things I can and let go of the rest, so I don't feel stressed and anxious to get everything done!